Be the man
who ruins
the party.
- When something isn’t right, say something.
- When your friend crosses the line, stop him.
- When someone needs help, step in.
- Doing what’s right matters more than fitting in.
The phrase is a decision
I’d rather ruin the party than ignore something I know is wrong.
Your teammate won't leave a drunk girl alone?
Ruin the party.
Your friend keeps pressuring someone after she says no?
Ruin the party.
Someone is trying to take an extremely intoxicated person home?
Ruin the party.
The group chat crosses a line?
Ruin the party.
Your friends make you feel stupid for speaking up?
Ruin the party anyway.
Post it. Wear it. Say it out loud. The phrase only works if it gets used.
Four moves
See it. Say it. Step in.
See it
Recognize when something isn't right.
Say it
Speak up. Call it out.
Step in
Take action. Help create a safer situation.
Be a better man
Hold each other accountable.
Every one of those has words that go with it, and situations to practice them on. Be the guy is the page for that.
“No.”
is a
complete
sentence.
It doesn’t matter when no is said.
- Before anything happens.
- After kissing.
- After clothes come off.
- After someone previously said yes.
- In the middle of it.
Consent can be taken back at any time. Nobody owes anyone anything because they flirted, took a drink, went home with them, kissed them, or said yes before.
Know the lineWho this is for
Good men have a responsibility to act.
Wear it
Start the conversation without saying anything.
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